Loving our languages.

When i was a kid, my mom always reaffirmed anything i ever did.  she would always make me feel like i was the best at showing cows, school, hair, and whatever else i set out to do.  she was always giving me words of affirmation.  i really think that is part of who i am.  i am always 100% sure that i will do whatever i set my mind to.  my dad however was not to good with words, if he was proud of us girls he would buy us something or pay for dinner.  he always made sure we were provided for financially.  

When len was young his mom was showed him love by affirming him and acts of service.  she worked a lot and did not have the means to buy things or spend loads of time with him.  

all that being said, these this is what made us into a perfect match.  

 There are 5 love languages..... the book saved our marriage and i HIGHLY suggest it.
1.) acts of service
2.) quality time
3.) touch
4.) words of affirmation
5.) gifts

now mine are in this order
QT, Touch, acts of service, gifts, affirmation

Len are
affirmation, acts of service, QT, Touch, Gifts.

 10 years ago we met, dated for 3 months, got married, we were young, dumb, broke, and had lots to learn.  it has NOT been fun all the time, or easy at all.
matter of fact year 5 and 6 we were very close to loosing our marriage all together.  until the book and GOD alone saved us from disaster.  it finally clicked in my very hard head that i had his order of love languages all messed up.  We worked hard on starting fresh and making "us" new.

 it honestly took both of us working and being 100% devoted to the cause.  i will be the first to say that loving your kids is easy, it flows out with ZERO effort.  its a whole new kind of love when you choose to love a man.  my choice to love Len was so much harder then i ever thought it would be, yet it has been the most rewarding choice i have ever made.  

 He is the man God chose for me, He is my best friend, my rock that i fall apart on, he is all i hope our son becomes.

 i look back over the last 10 years and see how different my life would be now if we had not worked it out.  i can tell you there were times he hated me and times that i was so very hurt, but i look at us now and can't mustard up one bad thought.  i never even knew marriage could be this good.

 Len - i love you bc i choose to, i love you bc your worth it, i love you bc without you i would never know what it means to be a "soulmate", i love you bc your everthing i could of dreamed you would be.  thank you for loving me and stickin it out with me, we all know i am not alwasy fun to live with but you never gave up on "us."

i hope the next 10, 20, 60, 70 years are spent loving you the way i do today.   happy 10th babe !!

Here's to the next happy years.........